Don't take her kicking you out and asking to go to rehab personally, she is protecting you. Visitors while you are in the hospital aren't always a good thing. They ask a lot of questions and hover...trust me I know ....you love them dearly and appreciate the company sometimes but you also know they are worried, scared and nosy and sometimes you just want to watch TV and doze off once in a while when the urge hits you. And asking to go to rehab is also a way for her to adjust to this new experience without having to put the family through it too. She has an ostomy right? That is a big embarrassment for her to have family help with...at a rehab the nurses will help, it's part of their job so they are used to it. Also, have you eaten the hospital food? I am guessing that she is still on liquids only? What they give you when you have had the surgery she has had is sometimes sickening itself. There is nothing worse than cold gelatinous chicken broth. Just remind her that she is your Mom and that makes her important to us too.
Toni has already said much of what I was going to Droopy. Your mum loves you and is obviously trying to stop you worrying or having too much to cope with. Just knowing that you are there, even for short periods of time, must be a great comfort to her and, in time, I'm sure your visits will be extended as she improves and has more to talk about. Once her breathing begins to regulate again I'm sure her appetite will slowly return. I just hope the swelling goes down quickly so that they can find a vein and re-attach an IV soon. We all wish her the very best and are crossing everything that she'll soon be feeling more like herself again.
Droopy, hang in there. We keep thinking of you and her and praying for a speedy recovery. Don't take it personally on her "kicking you out" that probably seems like hours to her if she is like me... (leave me alone to either get well or die in peace... but just go do something else... I know I am stubborn so I can relate if she is anything like me).
Oh gawd. Keep your chin up, keep strong. Cyber love and hugs whizzing through the airwaves to you and mum. Xxxxxxxxxx
I am not at all pleased with this latest bit of news. I hope that she will straighten out a bit soon and that they can get a handle on that swelling...of course it doesn't help that there is an infection outbreak on her ward. Well, all the isolation kit is necessary now but will eventually no longer be required. It sounds like she is still tired from her op, I do hope that she will feel more like eating in a couple of days, that will help her heal . Well then miss, take good care and give your mum my very best.
Oh, I know that. I would have done the same thing if that were me laying there. She will get better care in a facility than we could give her, and she'll be safer too. She hasn't had an ostomy. They managed to patch her up. She needs to get her system going and that's a struggle when she's having problems eating. The food isn't too bad. It has improved a lot over the last few years. She's still on strong painkillers. That's probably why she's so tired. Big hugs to all of you!
Mother is out of the hospital. I got a phone call yesterday afternoon. They asked me to come pick her up and take her to a care facility just 4 minutes by car up the road from me. I'm very happy. I slept like a log last night. She's in a special care unit with excellent personell that are trained to take care of patients like her. Now, if they could manage to get her to eat something I'd be even happier. All we have to do now is wait for the chemotherapy treatment.
I'm so glad that your mum is now somewhere that she'll get the best of attention. Maybe now that she's away from a hospital environment she'll feel more like eating. Thank goodness you managed to get a decent nights sleep yourself as all the worry must have been taking its toll on you. Knowing you're only a few minutes drive from the care facility must be a huge relief too. I know it's a waiting game for chemo but, hopefully, she'll be strong enough when the time comes to undergo it without too many problems.
Your mum, as noted before, is so lucky to have you! I'm sure she appreciates the care and concern, and I'm sure you appreciated getting a good night's sleep, knowing she is well cared for.
I am tickled pink that she could convalesce in a nice calm and comfortable facility. It is tremendous that you are only four mins away with your Droomobile. I am well pleased with that. I know that you are really glad how it is going,
Prayers for your Mother Droopy...I hope everything is going well...posts were kind of mixed up when I was reading and I just read she is recovering...it takes so much out of you when you worry about a loved one...take some time for yourself too.
