I just wanted to check in and let you know that we had the funeral for our Jonny yesterday. It was a most horrid day. I cried when my dad died, and I still cry to this day, but I wept such different tears yesterday. I wept for our loss as a family, I cried for Jonny, I cried for the friends, and I cried as a mum, and how my Uncle and Auntie ache at loosing a child, their first born, their son. I looked at my two, and pulled them close. Everything about yesterday was very, very wrong. The green burial site is beautiful, on a gentle hill already well planted with trees and wildflowers where many others have been laid to rest. He was buried in a woven coffin made from bamboo and his dad placed his guitar on the coffin to be buried with him. In January, when Jonny would have been 21, the family will gather there again, and a tree will be planted on his plot. We can plant wildflowers and bluebells there also, and there will be a wooden post, carved with his name. He was so loved, over 150 of his friends showed up to pay their respects. To see so many grown young men crying was an emotional sight to see. However, that emotion was too much for one boy, and he left the funeral, went home, and took his own life. So much tragedy, just awful. His poor, poor family. We all sat together at the wake and one of his friends pulled out his guitar and everyone sung Knocking on Heavens Door - it was beautiful. We toasted our boy, and sent him on his way. After the weekend, the family will have all gone home, some back to Devon, some back to Australia, and I should once again have some time to myself. I have lots of photos of veggies, the show, flowers and bits and bobs to post, but I just don't seem to have a chance at the moment. Leave it with me. Rest in Peace Jonny. Love you!
My Heart goes out to you EJ ((((HUGGLES)))) I know this is a very difficult time for you "Knocking on Heavens Door" sung by his friends is a very fitting farewell to a young man who was so loved (it is a very honorable tribute over here) So very sorry to hear about the emotional turmoil of the boy who left the funeral that is very sad indeed respectfully yours Wolfie
Oh EJ I am so sorry to read about this. I've been away for a while and missed the entire post. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Deanna
So sorry for your family's loss, and how tragic about the boy. Hope you all are able to heal fast and are able to live the rest of your lives remembering the good times spent with him.
Well Emma, I've tried to answer this posting a few times but just sat here with my right cheek in my right palm, the other arm acrosds my stomach wondering what to say. Fact is, I have no idea what one can say to you in this time of dire sadness. It's just awful, and I am so sorry that you and your family had to experience such a seemingly un-necessary loss. I hope that you can begin healing to some degree now that you have had the funeral. I hope that the most difficult time has passed. Take care and I wish you and yours the strength necessary to deal with this and work through it all. Don't forget, Emma--you have a number of friends here that are always willing and able to listen and chat should you want that. Hang in there. OO's
Like Sjoerd I find it very difficult to convey exactly how I feel after reading your post Emma. Now twoyoung lives have been tragically lost and both families must be utterly devastated. The green burial ground sounds like the perfect place to have laid your beloved Jonny to rest. May he rest in peace in his new surroundings.
Oh, EJ... my heart just breaks for this whole thing... all I can do is pray for peace and time for healing. I am so sorry for the loss your family has had, and for the other boy's family too. I hope you will feel comforted by our posts .... It is all so hard to understand, isn't it? Hugs.
EJ my thoughts and prayers are still with you and your family. Such a tragic loss loosing Jonny. Then to have his dear friend be stricken with such grief that he ended his own life. Two young lives cut so short. Know that we are here for you, now and in the future.
Just the thought of your day made me want to cry with you. Such loss is not something you can understand but thoughts and prayers will be with you. Take care and let yourself heal now. Loving thoughts are with you. dooley
my heart and hands have no way to express themself, but prayers and comforting thoughts I send to your way.
EJ, I'm lost for words too. *hugs* I know your feeling of everything being wrong. I'm so glad all his friends were there to support you and each other.
I'm so sorry for you losses, EJ.One wonders if such events make any sense in life. I have heard that, as if looking at the underside of a tapestry we see only the knots, but one day we will be on the other side and will see the beautiful pattern.
EJ, I wish I could take some of the hurt for you. I read thru the website of the green burial place, it sounds like a very peaceful and healing place. Watching the new trees and flowers grow over the years will bring peace to you all.
