The missus was commenting this morning, as I weeded two of the flower beds as to what plants/flowers/colors(colours)she wanted in them. I asked: Do you do any of the weeding, planting, mulching,watering, etc.? Her answer was no. I told her when the answer was yes, her input would be welcome. I get cold shoulder and grumble soup for supper.
FBG, How long have you been married, and you haven't yet learned to accept advice/instructions from your wife? My husband learned to say "Yes, dear" early in our married life. I try to keep my suggestions to a minimum, but every man needs a bit of guidance, and who better to provide it than the one he loves?
Miss Eileen, my failings are many and well documented. Howsoever, gardening is not one of them. This is one time I'll not back down. Time, energy, effort. All this must be considered before telling me what she wants done in the garden. Priorities. Fiduciary concerns. Consider that I work 50 hours per week, commute 10. I grow a large vegetable garden, I cut and split wood for winter heat. I am also preparing to start a rabbitry for meat. There is only so much of me to go around.
I hear ya FBG! When hubby started to tell me what to do in MY flower beds, I promptly reminded him of his veggie garden that needed tending to. I may not being doing things exactly right, but darn it... it's my flower bed and I'll darn well do what I want.
Now see, I'm with Cheryl. If it's my domain, and you don't work in it, don't tell me how to manage it. If you want to input, share the load. If you don't want to do the work, you don't get to input.
Around here, the gardens are mine. I made them, I planted them, and I maintain them. I welcome suggestions, and I MAY go along, but in the end I do them the way I like. No one has complained yet!
