Breaking things

What is it with men? I have been with Mark for over 10 years now and he constantly breaks my things! When we got together I had a housefull of stuff, and I still have lots of stuff from when I was younger, heirlooms, sentimental things, and gradually he has broken most if it! I reached the stage where I gathered everything up that I had left, wrapped it and boxed it and have it stashed safely in the garage. Also, over time him and the kids have bought me things like fancy mugs, ornate candle holders, lovely gargoyle like plant pot holders, and yes, you guessed it, they have all gone also. Tonight he has broken another gargoyle pot I have had since I was in my early teens! GGRR. I am passed getting angry now, just disappointed.

 

What is he managing to do to break your things Emma? I donb't think Ian has broken anything belonging me. Is he playing with the children and it happens then or what? strange though.

 

I've been with Mark for over 22 years and I can honestly say that he has FIXED more of my things than he has broken. It's my CHILDREN that are always where they shouldn't be and damage/lost my things!
Grrr!

 

EJ some people are just clumsey.I am a
one of those people.I understand how you feel I stay mad at me.

 

Glenda are you saying you are kinda like a 'bull in a china closet'!!

 

Poor man, it sounds like he's unaware of where his corners are. I'm sorry about your pots, EJ.

 

So sorry to hear about the loss of your pots EJ, but think of it another way, from what you have said over the years Mark is a great man to have around for you and the kids
I can honestly say that over 51 years of marriage to Don I can't recall him ever breaking anything of mine, it's usually me that breaks things and he sticks them back together :-D

 

I can't say i have that problem with KB, he's just forgetful. Forgets everything. If we go to the store together he forgets his wallet, loses his cell phone constantly, ect ect.

I'm sorry about your latest loss, but maybe he is just clumsy. In that case, 3 words. Lock and Key.

 

It is with the greatest amount of trepidation that I enter this thread after your opening line, EJ. --ducking as I creep on in--

I have broken a few things too, in my time. Mostly it's dishes and glasses since I do the washing-up.
I have stripped threads in things I was repairing or putting together.
Now and then I will scuff a drempel (threshold) as I am hoovering (vacuuming)the house. I sometimes am not aware of my corners either, Droopy.
My partner says that I can sometimes have a heavy hand. She remarks how ironic it is that for someone who can do such fine work and have the patience of....(whomever), but yet be so incredibly rough and impatient with other things.
Apparently another trait is that I can refine things to ruin as well. I wonder if she didn't mean--paradoxical. Oh well those words give me a fit anyway.
...and when it comes to tying tee-pees or bean racks together she says "We'll need to call-in Alexander to get that knot undone in the fall".

Well EJ...I normally do not like to be lobbed-in together with other men but maybe you have something here--on a genetic level. For instance it's not per chance that the large seed and plant suppliers more often than not use only women to pollinate flowers and do cuttings for propagation. Apparently women do seem generally better at fine work and being careful. While men tend to be a bit more superficial in recognizing the care that is neede3d to properly perform these sorts of tasks, It is also true in some factories where certain types of repetive work require the highest of precision--women are placed in these positions.
--These are generalized examples of the most crude form, however they are personal observations.

I don't really know why I am writing this, now that I have almost completed it--and now I'm looking for a way to end it gracefully.
You know, EJ your words seemed to have an air of hurt and disappointment in them, along with acceptance (albeit reluctant). Maybe I am reading soimething into them that is not here--and if I am, I apologise.
Well, it's been a few days now and I hope that you are feeling better. It's always an unhappy thing when you loose something that you cherish, due to the actions of another. That cannot be talked good, if you know what I mean. If your man is anything like me, I am sure that he feels really, really bad now and wished that it hadn't happened. You know that he didn't do it on purpose. No one likes to disappoint their mates.
I recently bumped a earthen pot off the wall in the foyer that we had bargained hard for in Mexico a few years ago--you know, one of those pottery pieces that have scenes painted in charming naive style? That thing broke into a hundred slivers and pieces. I was, myself, morose for days.
My bride has changed her reactions though-- she doesn't warble like one of the singers of the Butterfly Duet in Délibes' Lakmé--she now says," I don't get sad--I get mad"! heh heh heh. Perhaps I am subconsciously just that little bit more aware and careful now.

 

I must give Charlie credit, though i think the nature of his job makes him careful. I on the other hand have broken two glasses in a month. I keep the really precious things in a closed cabinet where I can't get at them.
Gardengater

 

Hahahaha - awww, thanks everyone for thinking of me. I am not really cross with Mark, he is a dream of a hubby and he is always so upset when he breaks things, I just think he has butterfingers, and he came into our marriage with only odds and sods, nothing of any value, sentimental or otherwise. I do always say to him that at least now I have an excuse to go shopping and buy something new. I guess the other evening when I typed that I was just feeling tired and thought, oh well, there goes something else, why should I be suprised, but I am not down, honestly. Gardengater, I have started to put anything precious away in my cabinet, altho he did pour me a glass of wine this evening in one of our expensive glasses....maybe I should go and wash it up and put it away now!