Hanging in there.

Hey y'all.

I understand from Barb that I've worried some of you with my extended absence. I'm so sorry....I'm such a newbie here I had no idea I'd be missed. I didn't mean to concern anyone.

Things have changed quite drastically for me. My housemate/domestic partner Lee has suddenly and out of the blue decided he's not happy here and wants to return to California. To say that I'm stunned is an understatement. That means I'll lose everything...my home, my companion, my retirement, my life as I know it.

I'm currently staying with Paige and William, my daughter and SIL, while I figure out how I'm going to put my life back together. It's really quite daunting to have to find a way to start over, at 61 (well, almost....my birthday's in a few days. Great birthday present. Bitter? Who, me?)

Anyway I just wanted to let everyone know that I'm hanging in there, though unfortunately still with more bad days than good. I'm over the initial shock, but not functioning very well yet, so I'm trying to just put one foot in front of the other and continue moving forward. I miss everyone, but I don't have a garden anymore, so I feel kind of foolish being here, because you all know so much more than me so I don't have much I can contribute to others.

The sense of community I've found here is just awesome, and I hope (though I have no idea how, right now) that I'll be able to have a garden again, some day, somewhere, so that I can be a more active part of things. Meanwhile I've started helping Paige and Will with theirs, so hopefully I can find some things to contribute here about that.

Thanks for caring, everyone. Right now it means the world.

 

May be can just put a container of flowers out.

 

Hey you loon!!!--Of course you're missed here. Heck, you've posted a lot and had some really good ones too.

I am not going to go on about your misfortune publicly, but I do want to say that you have a good cyber friend here and I know that the rest feel this way too.

Support is something that we here do, as well as gardening.

It is good hearing that you are helping your kids with their garden endeavours, whilst you plot out your next move.

Just know that while you no doubt have a good network of supporters there, you have it here as well. Do not hesitate keeping in contact here.

Please stay in touch.

 

I've been wondering where you were Ronni. Glad to hear from you, but sad to hear about your ordeal. Here's hoping you get everything sorted out soon. And please check in with us when you can, we really do miss your posts.

 

I've missed you too Ronni! So sorry to hear of what you are going through right now. We will all be here for you ... we are more than just a garden community. (((hugs)))

 

Ronni, You have been missed. I was worried about you. And You don't have to have a garden to be here! we all miss your posts evidently. I just feel bad for you. Stay here and stay grounded! You can come visit me for the Summer. I have lots of work to keep us all busy if you need it. Not much privacy, though...sorry about that. Hide a bed is all I have at this point, but you are welcome to it.

 

I'm big, ugly, and not so old I cain't open a can of whoop-as* on someone. I might could do that for you should you wish it.

Things will get better with time. Don't dwell too much on the past. Look forward and plan for the future instead.

Us'ns is here to offer help, support and plants. Just need to let us know.

 

Ronni, Please don't feel like you have to garden to be a part of the community. You have so much to share and contribute. (I have always wanted to go to your neck of the woods and have never been on a virtual tour...yet.) Hang in there.

I am so happy to hear you have such a supportive family close at hand. You are awesome. Look at all the support you have generated here if you doubt it for a moment.

 

Ronni, So glad you got back here. I really was worried about you. Sorry I was so forward. Tell your daughter i am so sorry for being pushy, too.

This is a good place for you to be while you are recovering.....As you say, go put one foot in front of another and just do it....

XOX, Barb

 

Ronni, I cannot believe any man would be so incredibly stupid as to up and leave you! Have him declared incompetent and take over his finances :twisted: .
You are so missed and loved here on the Stew. Who else would show us photos of babies, tiny dogs, and a transplanted rose bush?
We are here for you.

Barb, you took the bit in your lovely teeth and contacted Ronni--good for you! I'm sure many of us thought of doing so, but you actually did it, and I thank you heartily for being a kind, caring, and thoughtful lady.

 

You are all so kind. Thank you, more than I can say, for your wonderful words of support.

Toni, the mental picture of sticking pins in a Lee doll made me laugh out loud, as did the declaration of incompetence, MG! So did opening up a can of whoop a$$ on Lee, so thanks for that too, FBG! I really needed the laugh, haven't been doing much of that lately. And Carolyn, I would dearly love to take you up on your offer, and would, if I didn't have to double my work hours now, to keep afloat. I'm currently sleeping on a mattress on the floor (surprisingly, it's really very comfortable) so using a hide-a-bed would feel like a luxury! And Barb, don't apologize. The push resulted in all this support...how can I complain about that?

Seriously, all of you, there's no way I can possibly articulate what your kindness means. Yes, I have a wonderfully supportive family, and some lovely IRL friends, and they're all very supportive. But one life lesson I've very thoroughly learned is that in times of adversity (and I've had a few in my life) there is never any such thing as too much support. So thank you all.

 

Well, it ain't like I didn't mean it! I'm glad you were able to laugh about it.