I have 4 more days of freedom. My hubby has been a long haul driver for over 30 years. Gone a least 5 - 6 days a week. In 4 days he will be home all the time. Should I be afraid? I sure hope he's still trainable.
O.M.G. Nahhhh....it'll be just like when you first started dating. ooh-WEE! Laissez les bons temps rouler! Oh dear.
Donna, I have no idea what will happen. My Dh is home all the time....never away for days at a time. I am no help to you what so ever, unless you need a vacation. I live only 10 minutes from where your daughter lived while she was out here.
Hmmmm. That could be heaven......or a disaster in the making. Seriously, I imagine it will be quite an adjustment for the both of you. Does he have any specific plans for his retirement? Projects he wants to do, part time work doing something else? Anything like that?
My husband retired in January of this year, so he's been home full-time for almost a year. It is heavenly! No kidding, he is helpful, considerate, and I get to sleep in until 7 a.m. I wish he'd retired twenty years ago (but then we would be enjoying life at the poor farm rather than life on the farm!)
My husband took early retirement a couple of years ago and I was dreading him being underfoot all the time. I was so used to being on my own most of the time that I thought we'd be at each others throats in no time. Now we're happy as can be - as long as he does what he's told!!
dr is retired and so am I. We both have our things to do and we spend a lot of time doing things together. You will adjust to it in a short time and enjoy things with each other. dooley
Randy isn't retired yet but does work full time from home so he is here all day for the last 3+ years and my totally alone time is no more. He has a home office where he is holed up for 9 hours a day (compressed work week) and I usually only see him when he takes a break or gets lunch. I have my own room where I can close the door if I don't want to be disturbed. One thing I recommend is having a room just for him (other than the livingroom), where he can read, start a hobby, watch TV or nap anytime he wants. He is going to need alone time too since he has spent the same 30+ years basically alone. The hardest part of the adjustment is continuing to go about your daily routine, he might expect some extra attention at first but pretty soon he will find his own routine and this new part of your relationship will sync up and life will be really sweet...in a new way.
As long as he has things to keep busy with, like gardening, hobbies and what not, you two ought to be fine. Don't let him sit around and mope about being "retired". Sitting around moping is the worst thing any retiree can do, and it can be fatal. Lots of people keep very active in their churches, civic groups, hobbies, home repairs or whatever is interesting to them. Encourage him to keep active, and certainly make Honey-Do lists to keep him busy and happy. Retirement can be fun.
Hi Donna,..i am laughing here,..having so many friends who went through this experience,..your daily routine will be gone out the door for some time,..talking to yourself is no longer possible as a voice will be heard asking you,..did you say something?,..you will be watched constantly as the OH will be very interested in how or what you are doing,..mostly muttering,..so that's how you do it,...you may become a nervous wreck for the first few weeks when still thinking you are on your own you allow yourself to do your daily daydreaming session,..suddenly a figure appears behind you and speaks,..keep your favorite coffee mug tightly in hand for a few weeks,..
Sjoerd, Let the good times roll. Carolyn, Might need that vacation. Koszta Kid, Making long honey do list. Ronni, He has lots of projects he wants to do. Plus his Harley. Jane, No poor farm here or he goes back to work. Eileen, I gave him your advice. He did not reply. Toni, His room is the garage. Only thing missing is a tv. AA, No moping around here. He is very excited to be retired. And he is starting to take an interest in my gardens. I'm not sure that's a good thing. Philip, I'm laughing too. I'm a very early riser. He's not. That's a BIG plus for me. Already told him I did not want to see him until I had my coffee. (2 big cups )
Donna, for the first few months in your gardens, supervision, very close supervision is needed. Interest does not necessarily translate into knowledge. I lost a few plants before my hubby realized the scraggly things were not weeds, but herbs. Bye, bye Greek oregano :'( . Also, watch him if he uses a weed-eater. Those things can be fatal, and I'm not talking about husband fatality!
OMG He bought himself a chainsaw. The weed-eater is in parts and pieces on his work bench. Then he left for his last 4 days of work. PHEW!!
Oh, chain saws in the hands of a non-gardener can be a problem too. Make sure you are out there to check the fall path of the cut off limb or downed tree, both the predicted and the path that it will most likely take in reality. You might need to protect plants and pretties within a large area.
