Unbelievably, this weekend will be the first anniversary of my cousin, Jonny's death. I can't believe how that time has passed. At the start of August it was the 10th anniversary of my dad taking the leap from this mortal coil to the next. Of course, my Nan fled this realm in early summer. Hmmm...could do with some weddings or new babies I think. However, as a family, we have had good times this past year, lovely holidays, all on a budget as we have been struggling, then Mark found a great new job, and we aren't struggling now. The kids have done great at school, and Jessica starts high school next week. Mum, after her frightening ill health last spring, is a thousand times better than ever, driving us all mad, and spoiling us all rotten. The allotment continues to produce lovely things, and I have lovely friends, both in cyber land, and in the flesh around me. We can't do much about the passing of time, and sometimes that time is cut short, so Mark and I love every day now and try not to be so stressed, even when things are tight or tough. I miss my dad, my nan and my cousin very very much indeed, but I look back now and don't cry (well, not too often), I smile when I think about the fun times that we all had. Time flies, whether we are having fun, or not.
This is a poignant posting this time, EJ. Your retrospective consideration of the past that you have so eloquently recorded here is a good example to anyone I believe. It demonstrates a good and healthy to way of dealing with loss and memories. You really have had it tough in that department lately -- however, it seems that your family all contribute to one-another to help with the healing. It is true that no one can do anything about the passage of time, but how we deal with it all is in our hands. It was nice reading your thoughts here today. Everyone is different, and has different tools to work through unhappy times with; it seems that you have done well. Again condolences for your losses and hopefully you can remain positive and continue making the most of each day, and like Netty said--counting your blessings.
Have you thought of making a part of your garden a commemorative planting, with plants loved ones either favoured, or which bloom at the time of their passing, to give happy thoughts at the time of year, instead of sad ones? I don't know if this is a new idea or an old one. I may just do it myself, as we've had two deaths in the family since June. Either way, happy memories help.
Time heals all wounds they say. It's nice to be able to remember our lost loved ones with fondness and laugher, and not just sadness. *hugs* I'm so pleased things are looking good for you.
