I keep a dry erase board on the fridge... not just for jotting down things that I need from the store... but I also list things that I "need". One day someone besides myself will pay attention to it! :-o
Perhaps it's time to get more aggressive about your list. I'll share one trick I learned to help get the message across. When my last son was still living at home, he always somehow managed to "not see" whatever list I left for him. I started taping his list to the lid of the toilet. There was no way he could claim to "not see" it, when he had to lift the toilet lid to go to the bathroom.
Ronni... too funny! Mine is more of a suggestion/hint list... not a to-do one. But I will keep that in mind!