I think it is still in print...I found some copies over on Amazon as a start point. It discusses the craziness we all fall into and why we fall into it, why it always ends up exhausting and disappointing for grownups and ideas on other ways and traditions your family can do that help make it more what you really want instead of a ratrace of social expectations of perfection and bliss. I really liked it, and made some changes in our own holiday after reading it that helped.
